What memories will stick with Your children?
Fathers Day is as good a time as any to consider what we each learned from a father figure, both good and bad. Unfortunately, it is often the bad things that stick out; particularly if you are prone to negative energies. That makes it easy to assign blame; and that habit slows whatever healing you are in need of. So, rather than looking outward for reasons to be unhappy, shift your gaze inward; where you can use your creative imagination to construe solutions based on a positive outlook.
00:00 - 07:33 Meditation to receive love energies
07:34 Commentary on the longest day of the year & Fathers Day
11:05 Dr Kweethai's father. Her formative years.
19:23 Story: How to turn a rod of steel into a needle
24:45 An external perspective inhibits healing
29:33 What would your own children say about you?
30:53 Learning to love someone you do not like: Detachment
How to Do forgiveness
Three small words "I forgive you," but what if you don't, really? Are some forms of violation or abuse simply too grievous and traumatic to qualify for forgiveness? At what point does a magnanimous gesture turn into self-betrayal? When the issue of forgiveness reaches this level of complexity, it is time to move beyond mere words toward a means of healing. In some cases that means forgiving yourself before you can forgive a perpetrator.
00:21 Chinese character for Forgiveness: Woman/Mouth/Heart
00:42 Story: I can't forgive my father
05:11 When does an argument begin?
06:23 Do you want to be Right, or Happy?
10:15 How do you Do forgiveness?
11:49 The desire for justice
12:56 Forgiveness vs Justice
17:20 Forgiveness serves both you and the other person
18:45 Story: A father's forgiveness
25:36 An expert at beating yourself up
27:17 Prajna - Divine Consciousness
29:32 Male gynos will never fully understand mothering
31:00 To Do forgiveness, make a choice to not suffer
32:24 Story of two Buddhist monks carry a woman across a river
35:48 Start by forgiving yourself
39:04 Relationship of Soul Retrieval to Attachment
46:00 2-minute meditation
From Me to We
Dr Kweethai opens with a silly story to show that we all have our blind spots. Recognizing that, should it not then be easier to accept the perceived shortcomings of those to whom we are closest.
Transmuting from Me to We, a single letter between two simple words, makes a major contribution to long-lasting, happy relationships.
03:01 The magic drawer
05:37 Procrastination is a delayed decision
06:11 Story of Flunking Brownie school
13:35 Flip one letter in a word to change your world
15:09 No justification for violence
18:27 Conflict arises from 2 Me's
20:46 Mutual respect in marriage - based on We
22:35 From Me to We
24:49 Marriage is not a contract
27:52 Stop doing things that benefit only you
30:44 Difference between promises and commitment
40:43 2-minute meditation
Where does fear come from?
Anger is an expression of fear. The unintended consequence of unresolved fear is that it contributes to a deepening sense of not being good enough. On the other hand, as it takes the same amount of energy to either blame others or forgive yourself, learning how to love yourself is the only real antidote to anger.
00:07 Anger as Fire
00:49 Growing up poor need not produce fear or anger in later life
07:29 Bad choices arise from Fear
10:36 Negative emotions either elevate us or send us into the abyss
11:22 Chi energy is either fear or love
12:00 Degrees of Fear -- Anger
15:56 Degrees of Fear -- Anxiety
16:15 Degrees of Fear -- Depression
18:16 Degrees of Fear -- Despair
18:40 Despair -- Self destruction vs Destroying others
19:57 Driving away from an old life into a new life
20:53 It takes as much energy to blame as it does to forgive
25:38 How to resolve anger
30:03 Compassion is kindness in action
36:30 Adopt a meditative state of awareness
44:04 - 46:50 Meditation
How do you know you have learned? Turn your head the direction you want to go.
Learning is not passive. It is defined in education as a 'relatively permanent change in behavior'. Behavior suggests action. Therefore, learning is evident in action; what you DO with what you have learned.
00:50 How to prepare to teach? Know your stuff.
03:26 The same holds true in hypnotherapy practice
04:52 Time to share and leave a legacy
06:10 Life experiences are a tapestry
07:12 How do you know when you have learned?
11:11 Difference between infant and adult learning
12:45 The skating lesson: Look where you want to go, and your body will follow
18:00 Alan Watts: Life is not a destination, Life is a journey
21:40 Where-ever you are in your journey, look where you want to go now
23:38 One dollar more
25:59 Write your own obituary
35:19 Set the right intention. But don't micromanage God.
41:47 From Hope to Faith
48:58 Dreaming vs Doing
How to stop the craziness; say Ouch
Stress just gets worse when you fail to acknowledge it. When we experience physical pain we say Ouch. It works the same with emotional and spiritual pain. Stop. Say Ouch. Acknowledge it. Express it.
02:40 Stress is part of life
03:30 Stress is fear
05:00 Develop an alternate response the extra-ordinary
07:30 Reaction vs Response via Emotional Health
09:07 Fear of not being good enough - Filling a void in Spirit
12:36 Just say Ouch, instead of striking back
15:44 Own the pain. Own the problem.
20:30 Break state. Claim your power.
21:56 Stop it! Then, What do you want?
27:25 Extraordinary behavior: Breathing thru the fear
30:56 Emotional Health
34:19 Anger is easier to feel than grief
37:20 Next step: Learning ways to express yourself thru assertive language
40:45 - 43:56 Meditation: Affirmation; all problems have solutions
Human being vs being Human
Dr Kweethai relates a few stories of how seemingly inconsequential ideas she learned from others subsequently proved quite beneficial; in one case, life-saving.
00:52 In Memoriam
03:12 Man, Woman, Birth, Death, Infinity
04:36 Mind, Body, Spirit
05:33 What is life all about?
07:22 From being Human to human Being
08:04 Teaching children to prostitute themselves for affections
10:20 Programming the child’s mind – You are extra special
15:14 Women are the first teachers of the next generation
16:58 Big changes from small ideas – A big lesson from one ice skating lesson
21:20 A lesson from the Cleveland Clinic
25:06 Dimensions of Health
26:54 Spirituality – The core of behaviors – Eating Disorders
28:47 Getting at the source code – Fear
31:45 How to help someone find spiritual peace – Abandon hope
36:14 You are the sum total of all your life experiences
39:07 Crisis brings out the best and worst in people
41:57 Meditation preface memorial
43:43 – 50:00 Meditation – Guiding and releasing departed souls
I climbed the wrong mountain. But it prepared me for what I do now.
Dr Kweethai relates a bit of personal history to introduce viewers to how she initial conceived her iChange Therapy process.
00:53 Personal biography
01:42 Victoria Institution ("The VI")
03:37 A defiant child in a masculine culture
05:02 Successful marriage (finally)
06:02 Climbed the wrong mountain
07:02 Leaps of Faith
08:02 New ways of making choices
08:42 Ambition: Brain surgeon
11:22 From stay-at-home mom back to school
16:42 Revising an ambition
18:02 Accessibility: Expanding on basic knowledge
22:42 Graduate school
23:49 Health is a Choice
25:16 Teaching at the right time
29:27 Consulting...Summit in Washington
30:52 Perspective of scale
31:57 "How you feel" trumps knowledge and attitude
33:37 Accepting death as part of life
35:34 Integration with the universe
38:02 Hypnotherapy: "I plan to be successful one client at a time."
39:10 The missing piece in Health Education
40:02 The wrong mountain
40:47 Integration of Mind, Body, Spirit
42:12 Difference between Religion and Spirituality
43:50 How to be grounded
44:29 Multivariate health
45:47 Conditioned to Lie
56:42 Difference between thinking and feeling