iChange with Dr Kweethai

What memories will stick with Your children?

Fathers Day is as good a time as any to consider what we each learned from a father figure, both good and bad. Unfortunately, it is often the bad things that stick out; particularly if you are prone to negative energies. That makes it easy to assign blame; and that habit slows whatever healing you are in need of. So, rather than looking outward for reasons to be unhappy, shift your gaze inward; where you can use your creative imagination to construe solutions based on a positive outlook. 

 

00:00 - 07:33   Meditation to receive love energies

07:34   Commentary on the longest day of the year & Fathers Day

11:05   Dr Kweethai's father. Her formative years.

19:23   Story: How to turn a rod of steel into a needle

24:45   An external perspective inhibits healing

29:33   What would your own children say about you?

30:53   Learning to love someone you do not like: Detachment



How to Do forgiveness

Three small words "I forgive you," but what if you don't, really? Are some forms of violation or abuse simply too grievous and traumatic to qualify for forgiveness? At what point does a magnanimous gesture turn into self-betrayal? When the issue of forgiveness reaches this level of complexity, it is time to move beyond mere words toward a means of healing. In some cases that means forgiving yourself before you can forgive a perpetrator.

 

00:21   Chinese character for Forgiveness: Woman/Mouth/Heart

00:42   Story: I can't forgive my father

05:11   When does an argument begin?

06:23   Do you want to be Right, or Happy?

10:15   How do you Do forgiveness?

11:49   The desire for justice

12:56   Forgiveness vs Justice

17:20   Forgiveness serves both you and the other person

18:45   Story: A father's forgiveness

25:36   An expert at beating yourself up

27:17   Prajna - Divine Consciousness

29:32   Male gynos will never fully understand mothering

31:00   To Do forgiveness, make a choice to not suffer

32:24   Story of two Buddhist monks carry a woman across a river

35:48   Start by forgiving yourself

39:04   Relationship of Soul Retrieval to Attachment

46:00   2-minute meditation



From Me to We

Dr Kweethai opens with a silly story to show that we all have our blind spots. Recognizing that, should it not then be easier to accept the perceived shortcomings of those to whom we are closest.

Transmuting from Me to We, a single letter between two simple words, makes a major contribution to long-lasting, happy relationships.

 

03:01   The magic drawer

05:37   Procrastination is a delayed decision

06:11   Story of Flunking Brownie school

12:13   Attachment

13:35   Flip one letter in a word to change your world

15:09 No justification for violence

18:27   Conflict arises from 2 Me's

20:46   Mutual respect in marriage - based on We

22:35   From Me to We

24:49   Marriage is not a contract

27:52   Stop doing things that benefit only you

30:44   Difference between promises and commitment

40:43   2-minute meditation



Where does fear come from?

Anger is an expression of fear. The unintended consequence of unresolved fear is that it contributes to a deepening sense of not being good enough. On the other hand, as it takes the same amount of energy to either blame others or forgive yourself, learning how to love yourself is the only real antidote to anger.

 

00:07   Anger as Fire

00:49   Growing up poor need not produce fear or anger in later life

07:29   Bad choices arise from Fear

10:36   Negative emotions either elevate us or send us into the abyss

11:22   Chi energy is either fear or love

12:00   Degrees of Fear -- Anger

15:56   Degrees of Fear -- Anxiety

16:15   Degrees of Fear -- Depression

18:16   Degrees of Fear -- Despair

18:40   Despair -- Self destruction vs Destroying others

19:57   Driving away from an old life into a new life

20:53   It takes as much energy to blame as it does to forgive

25:38   How to resolve anger

30:03   Compassion is kindness in action

36:30   Adopt a meditative state of awareness

42:21   Forgiveness

44:04 - 46:50   Meditation


How do you know you have learned? Turn your head the direction you want to go.

Learning is not passive. It is defined in education as a 'relatively permanent change in behavior'. Behavior suggests action. Therefore, learning is evident in action; what you DO with what you have learned.

00:50   How to prepare to teach? Know your stuff.

03:26   The same holds true in hypnotherapy practice

04:52   Time to share and leave a legacy

06:10   Life experiences are a tapestry

07:12   How do you know when you have learned?

11:11   Difference between infant and adult learning 

12:45   The skating lesson: Look where you want to go, and your body will follow

18:00   Alan Watts: Life is not a destination, Life is a journey

21:40   Where-ever you are in your journey, look where you want to go now

23:38   One dollar more

25:59   Write your own obituary

35:19   Set the right intention. But don't micromanage God.

41:47   From Hope to Faith

48:58   Dreaming vs Doing



How to stop the craziness; say Ouch

Stress just gets worse when you fail to acknowledge it. When we experience physical pain we say Ouch. It works the same with emotional and spiritual pain. Stop. Say Ouch. Acknowledge it. Express it.

02:40   Stress is part of life

03:30   Stress is fear

05:00   Develop an alternate response the extra-ordinary

07:30   Reaction vs Response via Emotional Health

09:07   Fear of not being good enough - Filling a void in Spirit

12:36   Just say Ouch, instead of striking back

15:44   Own the pain. Own the problem.

20:30   Break state. Claim your power.

21:56   Stop it! Then, What do you want?

27:25   Extraordinary behavior: Breathing thru the fear

30:56   Emotional Health

34:19   Anger is easier to feel than grief

37:20   Next step: Learning ways to express yourself thru assertive language

40:45 - 43:56   Meditation: Affirmation; all problems have solutions



Human being vs being Human

Dr Kweethai relates a few stories of how seemingly inconsequential ideas she learned from others subsequently proved quite beneficial; in one case, life-saving.

00:52   In Memoriam

03:12   Man, Woman, Birth, Death, Infinity

04:36   Mind, Body, Spirit

05:33   What is life all about?

07:22   From being Human to human Being

08:04   Teaching children to prostitute themselves for affections

10:20   Programming the child’s mind – You are extra special

15:14   Women are the first teachers of the next generation

16:58   Big changes from small ideas – A big lesson from one ice skating lesson

21:20   A lesson from the Cleveland Clinic

25:06   Dimensions of Health

26:54   Spirituality – The core of behaviors – Eating Disorders

28:47   Getting at the source code – Fear 

31:45   How to help someone find spiritual peace – Abandon hope

36:14   You are the sum total of all your life experiences

39:07   Crisis brings out the best and worst in people

41:57   Meditation preface memorial

43:43 – 50:00   Meditation – Guiding and releasing departed souls



I climbed the wrong mountain. But it prepared me for what I do now.

Dr Kweethai relates a bit of personal history to introduce viewers to how she initial conceived her iChange Therapy process.

00:53   Personal biography

01:12   Education

01:42   Victoria Institution ("The VI")

03:37   A defiant child in a masculine culture

05:02   Successful marriage (finally)

06:02   Climbed the wrong mountain

07:02   Leaps of Faith

08:02   New ways of making choices

08:42   Ambition: Brain surgeon

11:22   From stay-at-home mom back to school

16:42   Revising an ambition

18:02   Accessibility: Expanding on basic knowledge

22:42   Graduate school

23:49   Health is a Choice

25:16   Teaching at the right time

29:27   Consulting...Summit in Washington

30:52   Perspective of scale

31:57   "How you feel" trumps knowledge and attitude

33:37   Accepting death as part of life

35:34   Integration with the universe

38:02   Hypnotherapy: "I plan to be successful one client at a time."

39:10   The missing piece in Health Education

40:02   The wrong mountain

40:47   Integration of Mind, Body, Spirit

42:12   Difference between Religion and Spirituality

43:50   How to be grounded

44:29   Multivariate health

45:47   Conditioned to Lie

48:12-53:52   Meditation

56:42   Difference between thinking and feeling


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