People can become defensive when confronted with their unconscious attachments; to things, to emotions, to beliefs. They justify potential value or benefits. What they do not realize is that every attachment draws energy.
The 'full cup' is a metaphor for self-importance, egocentrism, arrogance, and any other disposition that prevents one from seeking to share meaning with others. It leads to the impression that one is judgmental and self-righteous, but also defensive. In essence, you are so full of yourself that you cannot share meaning with others, i.e., interpret a circumstance from the perspective of 'another' person.
Meditation is a practice of being present. It is the opposite of thinking. Time stops. The notion of a goal, trying to accomplish something within meditation, invokes thought and can result in feelings of judgment. Meditation does not reduce pain or suffering. But, in the context of meditation, one embraces suffering in a way that allows it to pass thru you; just as you observe thoughts, allowing them to float in and out of consciousness without responding to them. Yet meditation need not be...
Ignoring an insignificant error can lead to unintended consequences. Fixing the error, even if it means starting over, may be inconvenient, but is the only practical way to prevent related difficulties in the future.
Don't be the warden of your own prison. Take back the power to make choices in your own best interest. Freedom isn't free, it requires effort. So, take responsibility for your choices; speak up, speak out.
Three small words "I forgive you," but what if you don't, really? Are some forms of violation or abuse simply too grievous and traumatic to qualify for forgiveness? At what point does a magnanimous gesture turn into self-betrayal? When the issue of forgiveness reaches this level of complexity, it is time to move beyond mere words toward a means of healing. In some cases that means forgiving yourself before you can forgive a perpetrator. 00:21 Chinese character for Forgiveness: Woman/Mouth/Heart...
Dr Kweethai opens with a silly story to show that we all have our blind spots. Recognizing that, should it not then be easier to accept the perceived shortcomings of those to whom we are closest. Transmuting from Me to We, a single letter between two simple words, makes a major contribution to long-lasting, happy relationships.
Anger is an expression of fear. The unintended consequence of unresolved fear is that it contributes to a deepening sense of not being good enough. On the other hand, as it takes the same amount of energy to either blame others or forgive yourself, learning how to love yourself is the only real antidote to anger.